A Christian Perspective on Narcissism

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In previous articles, I have begun to describe a phenomenon that, while being ever-present within our Satanic world, is unidentified by most people. In truth, only many recent revelations have caused me to understand it.

I am talking about one of the greatest evils that plagues our planet: narcissism. This is no exaggeration; it’s that bad.

The chances are very good that you have encountered a narcissist during your lifetime—whether it be a friend, a parent, a sibling, a romantic partner, or even a business partner—and didn’t even realize it. You knew there was something off, or perhaps even malevolent about them, but you didn’t know what. The chances are also good that you had no idea who you were really dealing with, or that you even knew what narcissism is.

As previously stated, I had no idea, either.

The truth is that most people narcissists interact with believe they are “normal” people. In fact, and as I have said repeatedly in other articles, they purposely appear to be good. That is their act: their façade, or the mask they wear. In this sense, narcissists can be very generous and uplifting to those who don’t exist within their inner circles.

This is why trying to explain the horrors of a narcissist to others can range from difficult to impossible. The person you knew behind closed doors is literally nothing like the joyous, laughter-filled person that is typically seen by coworkers and acquaintances.

It’s usually only when you really get to know them that the mask drops. Many of you have experienced unimaginable behavior from others at points in your lives, and my bet is that you have probably felt the wrath of a narcissistic parent, sibling, romantic partner, or other.

Considering this, let me ask a series of probing questions that may shed light on whether you have personally encountered a narcissist. This includes both grandiose and covert narcissists, though they often manifest their behavior in different ways. Further, these questions apply to all manner of narcissistic relationships, especially romantic ones.

Here goes . . .

1. Has someone ever shown you massive affection and/or praise very early in the relationship, almost to an unrealistic extent? Did they abruptly stop that pattern out of nowhere and pull away, treating you like the scourge of the earth?
2. Did they put you in a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde type of push-and-pull pattern, always lifting you up and then dropping you down? Did you always feel like they had one foot in the relationship and one foot out the door?
3. Did they begin to steadily criticize you, to the point where it became virtually constant? Did you feel like you couldn’t do anything right?
4. Did they project their characteristics and actions onto you? Did they refuse to ever accept blame for their actions or consider that they were wrong?
5. Was the person utterly incapable of a genuine apology? Did it seem as though they lacked all empathy and simply didn’t care?
6. Did they “gaslight” you, making up lies, twisting scenarios, or even moving/hiding items to make you doubt your sense of reality? Did they “future fake” you into thinking something great was coming, but it never materialized?
7. Did you break your back to make them happy, only to find that nothing was ever good enough?
8. Did they “triangulate” you, often pulling others into the relationship to feud against you, to make you jealous, or simply to invoke a reaction?
9. Did you constantly feel anxious and like you had to walk on eggshells around them? Did you feel like you were trapped in a fog or that you were under a spell?
10. Did you notice yourself being drained of your time, money, energy, and other resources? Did you start to feel like you were losing yourself in the relationship and/or acting out of character?

*Bonus question – Did the person often act like a petulant child trapped in an adult’s body?

I know without a shadow of a doubt that some of you reading this are in shock right now.

Perhaps you feel as though a lightbulb has gone off, and that the world suddenly makes a lot better sense.

These are the primary acts exhibited by narcissists. Yes, all of us can be guilty of some of these things. Narcissists, however, will do most or all these things. Most importantly, this will be exhibited as a pattern of behavior and not an isolated event.

If you have experienced this type of persistent conduct, then you will understand how absolutely crushing it can be. This is nothing short of horrific abuse that is meant to extinguish lives and destroy souls.

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Deeper into Narcissism

Rest assured that narcissism is a very real mental and spiritual problem, and that narcissists not only roam the world around us but are exploding in number. Some mental health professionals estimate that between 0.5-1% of the population are narcissists but acknowledge that it’s likely higher.

I can assure you that it is higher: much higher. Most narcissists are never diagnosed or are misdiagnosed. Furthermore, they will rarely ever seek counseling on their own accord because they cannot accept that they need to change. In my personal opinion, as many as 10-15% of people walking the earth in 2023 are full-blown narcissists. It could be more, and it certainly will be as time goes on.  

That does not even include the number of people who have a great deal of narcissistic tendencies but are still tolerable.

Since I have spent significant time describing the key characteristics and the origins of narcissism elsewhere, please see this blog if you want to take an even deeper dive into the matter.

For now, just understand that narcissists are wolves in sheep’s clothing. They present themselves as virtuous, often feigning compassion to convince others that they have their best interest at heart. Believe it or not, narcissists even follow something of a playbook with how they suck others into their web of manipulation and deceit. No joke: they literally follow a step-by-step pattern most of the time.

(I described part of this with the probing questions in the previous section, but also see this video for one of many explanations.)

Their goal is to drain your time, money, and energy, and even to destroy your salvation. While narcissistic awareness is growing, very few people understand this is primarily a spiritual issue. Salvation is often at stake when dealing with these energy vampires. When they are done taking everything from you, they simply move on to their next “host.”

Wash. Rinse. Repeat.

Further, the logical connection between Satan and a human narcissist is undeniable if you understand the nature of both. Satan’s characteristics—which I previously discussed, here—match up exactly with the characteristics of a narcissist.

Both are complete liars.

Both are master manipulators.

Both are totally unapologetic.

Both lack any sense of empathy.

Both are incredibly stealthy.

And . . . both are powerful.

The characteristics perfectly overlap. This is not a coincidence, and I trust that I don’t need to explain what’s really going on here.

Narcissists do tremendous evil. They are evil.

Let me be very clear, here. My primary interest in this phenomenon is that it displays Satan’s work in our world. I know with as much certainty as possible that narcissists everywhere are Satanically driven. They act exactly like their evil master. The fact that they all use the same type of playbook and tactics reveals that this is a coordinated effort; the same dark being is pulling the strings in these individuals around the world.

In a very real sense, narcissists are Satan’s foot soldiers. They do most of their work with specific intent; their behavior is within their control, as evidenced by their ability to wear the mask and put it away at will. They do choose to build you up and then abruptly drop you . . . over, and over, and over. They do choose to destroy nearly every major event, such as holidays, birthdays, vacations, and others. They do choose to treat perfect strangers better than their own spouses, children, or close friends.

They choose to do all this, and so much more.

Narcissists intentionally destroy the lives of everyone close to them, like their evil master. Often, they even admit that they blow up relationships. Still, they don’t care and will not change their behavior. Some openly take joy and find humor in it.

It’s a never-ending game of seek and destroy.

Again, it is that bad. Only those who have personally experienced this behavior can fully grasp it. That is the plain reality of things. However, all people can at least come to understand their basic mode of behavior and that narcissists should be avoided at all costs.

You simply must understand that narcissists aren’t just arrogant or “difficult” people. We are dealing with evil on two legs.

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Analyzing the Narcissist

You may be wondering if I have any compassion for narcissists: any empathy. Admittedly, I am very hard on them, and the reason why is simple: they do terrific evil to everyone around them. They destroy their children’s lives. They hold their romantic partners hostage. They use and abuse friends. They torture their employees.

Once more, they do most of these evil things intentionally. Yes, they are Satan’s foot soldiers. I won’t retract this statement or attempt to sugar-coat it.

However, I do feel sorry for them; very sorry, in fact. There are several reasons why. The first reason is the most devastating, and it simultaneously explains why they operate the way they do: they are under demonic influence. They do not act like normal human beings because they aren’t. I can think of few things more tragic than someone living their entire life under the control of evil spiritual beings.

The second reason I truly feel sorry for them is that narcissists live completely hollow lives. They secretly loathe themselves. They have virtually no self-esteem, no real joy, no genuine ability to love, and they are literally on a never-ending—and utterly impossible—quest to find someone who is without spot or blemish.

You could say they are looking for Jesus but will never allow themselves to find him.

Therefore, their entire lives will be wasted—yes, wasted—attempting to find a source of “supply” (a human resource, basically) who is faultless and will never let them down in any way, shape, or form. This person would perfectly enable them to always “regulate” their emotions and take the endless abuse necessary to do so. Put another way, this person would “protect them from themselves.”

Yes, you are in charge of managing their behavior. Naturally, this means that their bad behavior is ultimately your fault.

It gets deeper, and please pay close attention to this point. Since the narcissist is miserable, self-loathing, and lacks any genuine confidence in themselves, he or she also hates themselves. Believe it. We could put it this way: narcissists are in love with themselves . . . but they do not love themselves. There is a huge difference; think about it.

This is why they simply must deflect blame and always—always, always—project their inadequacies onto others.

When they devalue others and project onto them, the true goal—whether consciously or subconsciously—is to turn others into themselves. This is true both in reality and in the narcissist’s own perception. They want to destroy others but, more importantly, they want to turn others into a strawman of themselves.

Narcissists are broken, untrusting, unreliable, empty, unloving, and lacking in all genuine care or empathy. So, their goal is to project their despicable selves onto another. If they can unload these nasty features onto you, then they can truly—albeit temporarily—soothe themselves. Now, you are the one who is broken, untrusting, unreliable, empty, unloving, and lacking all genuine care or empathy . . . not them.

And since that is now the case—as far as they see things—they can destroy you (i.e., themselves) without hesitation and without having to deal with their own issues.

Read what I just said again, and several times if need be.

It’s true: a narcissist’s main goal is to unload their true selves onto someone else, for the purpose of being able to blow themselves up. At that point—and with all that in place—they aren’t really accepting blame or harming themselves at all.

They’re destroying you, who has become an image of themselves.

This fulfills their deep-seeded desire to self-sabotage. It soothes their complete hatred for themselves, but at another’s expense. Because if there is one thing a narcissist cannot do, it’s accept that they have the problem.

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A Christian Perspective on Narcissism

I understand this is deeply psychological, and that I am not a trained psychologist (or anything of the sort). Still, if you really think about it, this is undeniable. Anyone who has experienced narcissistic abuse can see it.

So, I get back to the original point. I feel horrible for these individuals. They resonate at the lowest levels of humanity. They are dead but living. The façade hides their hideous interior; they are the epitome of whitewashed tombs. They will never have genuine peace or contentment, and their behaviors will only lead them to be even more lonely and miserable as they age. In turn, they will harm others exponentially more as they become more decrepit.

There is only the faintest hope of change. There is the near certainty of degradation.

(To get a picture of the “aging narcissist,” please see this video.)

Infinitely worse is the fact that they—in most cases—will never see the Kingdom of God. While rarely a narcissist may come to Christ and be saved, they almost always will not. Without question, many narcissists will feign belief in God or mirror your own faithful reflections back at you. However, they will not come to authentic faith.

You may be asking, “how do you know that?”

The reason why is simple: How can one repent if they cannot acknowledge their own sinful deeds and accept blame for them? And how can one accept blame if they cannot introspect?

Most narcissists never become “self-aware” or able to analyze their own behavior and seek to change it. These factors, however, are fundamental in repentance and spiritual growth.

As sad as it is, the despair and emptiness of living the narcissistic life will likely only worsen in the next life . . . and by far. This is why, despite the horrors they cause, praying for the narcissist and desiring their repentance is truly the stance Christians should take.

Narcissists are still human beings. Yes, they are often the enemy of any God-fearing person . . . but we are also called to love and pray for our enemies (Mt. 5:44). We should pray for their repentance and salvation, unlikely as it is that they turn to Christ.  

We can pray for them without allowing them deeply into our lives to cause destruction, lest they take us down with them. Anyone who is not bound to a narcissist by shared children, or some other powerful means, should look to leave/avoid all narcissistic relationships. Trying to “help” them or wait for a change is almost certainly futile and will likely only harm you.

Only in a case like this would I offer this suggestion: pray for them . . . but from afar.

At the same time, we need to be mindful of those who are (and will be) crushed by narcissistic abuse. By pinpointing this behavior and showing it to others, we can literally change lives. People can either be spared from enduring torture or released from it.

So, I leave you this time with my personal suggestions on the matter.

Pinpoint the narcissists around you and remove them from your life. Pray that they can—against all odds—empty themselves before the cross of Christ. Lastly, expose their Satanic schemes to anyone you suspect might be dealing with them.

And remember this: be extremely watchful and proceed with caution. You are dealing with the Enemy.

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To read my other works on narcissism, start with this blog and proceed onto the others that are linked throughout it.

To hear more about the spiritual part of narcissism, I strongly recommend this YouTube channel. Start with this video and progress through the others that populate.